Generosity, Game Changers and Gatecrashers

Posted: September 12, 2014 in Uncategorized


Ever organised a party? Ever been involved as a social committee member? Run your own sports/enthusiasts club?

There’s a number of times I have and I know others too. I see this happen in these social gatherings.

1.The host/organiser is in-demand, busy, at the centre of attention the common denominator about why all people are even there. They have often organised the function/gathering for their benefit but mostly for the benefit of others. Let’s call them the epicentres.

2.There are the real supportive types. You know the ones who collect the rubbish at the end of the event so it doesn’t all fall down to the organiser. Ones who raise the toast to the organiser(s) and the reason they’re all there in the first place. Let’s call these the inner circlers.

3.There’s the willing attendees who all appreciate the organiser(s) efforts. They join in and they get from the event what the organiser(s) wanted it to be all about. Let’s call these the outer circlers.

4.There’s the ones who turn up but have somewhere else to go. They put in an appearance. They moan a bit about the price of the beer there. They say the entertainment was a bit duff. Let’s call these the outer rimmers.

5.Then there’s those who don’t reply, don’t turn up, even moan about the location and justify why they shouldn’t spend their time there. Let’s call these the outcasts.

6.Then there’s people who weren’t even supposed to be there. They heard the festivities, and crashed the party. They will often ruin it and take fun in spoiling or leeching from something. Quite literally these are the gatecrashers.

Now we see this on social media and in people trying to change the world of work; HR or their other professional sphere of interest/occupation.

WIth the epicentres, inner circlers and outer circlers there’s a generosity game. Support, doing, effort. There’s challenges too it’s not all nicey nicey.

The outer rimmers aren’t quite so generous but their mere presence alone gives them the right to criticise, chastise and call out others’ acceptance of something they see as lame.

The outcasts are at least voting with their non-presence. They might pollute the conversations around the event/club and they might fire up the outer rimmers with their dischord.

The gatecrashers are just plain takers and spoilers who are the opposite of generosity. They are those who drain the fun out of others passion and enjoyment.

There’s a few people who are epicentres of great things happening in the world of work and I’m going to showcase why we need more inner and outer circlers for these people and convince or further marginalise outer rimmers, outcasts and gatecrashers. We can always have a few more game changers of course.

Amanda Sterling is an independent HR practitioner from Auckland who I just happen to be able to call a friend and a partner in changing the world of work. Generosity is a feature of our Amanda, Always giving up time to run the #nzlead twitter chat. To share with others. Comment and support initiatives, others’ posts; debates around what would make work better. A Game Changer for sure with her partner in this Tash Pieterse.

Angela Atkins is also from New Zealand and is the epitome of Game Changing. Creating HR Game Changer as a conference and community of practitioners to improve all aspects of the HR profession is a selfless crusade which one can only admire and support in equal measure. Generous in giving time, revenue and space to others so that they too can join in and help shape a better profession.

Simon Heath is an artist and blogger amongst other things. His generosity is in his gestures, his words and his artform which supports, excites and illuminates thinking from others.

Gareth Jones is an HR consultant and leader of new thinking. Always having time for others, sharing, being a central force behind creating what we take for granted as Connecting HR. Sure he’s had help but no-one exemplifies what being a socially generous and intelligent professional is more than he.

Peter Cheese is the CEO of the CIPD. He is though, generous in where he spends his time and who wit,h and is committed to making his role not one of steward of a professional body, but leader of a new school of HR. A business-critical, professionalised group of passionate and committed people who really should change the game of work for the better. There’s things Peter has pushed the CIPD and the profession to do that many of us should be grateful for.  I’m not afraid of anyone saying I’m being a creep here.  Peter stands for something better and is putting himself at the heart of that.  Why shouldn’t I call that as good in case a gatecrasher calls me a creep?  Peter needs to know people are with him.

Michael Carty is the epitome of generosity. Sharing is his way and we are all better for an @MJCarty Retweet.

David d’Souza is an unstoppable force of humour, insight and belief in a better way. He gives in ways others may not always appreciate but he is involved in anything that matters.

Neil Usher is a smart, witty and powerful writer and personality who we should all learn from.

Kate Griffiths-Lambeth is a kind, compassionate and thoughtful leader in the HR profession. Joined in that by Dean Royles, Siobhan Sheridan, Robert Ordever, Gemma Reucroft, Alison Chisnell and there’s more.

Kandy Woodfield thinks, shares and acts with considered humanity, intelligence and verve. A model of how to be “social” using digital forums.

Nicky Texeira supports everything, shares all the good stuff and quitely gets on with being a committed and purposeful professional.

I’d love this to be a roll call of all the amazing people I know who are generous AND game changing. You know who you are but this isn’t a post about me naming you all. If you think “I’m one of those people he’s talking about” then it is you.

I suppose I wanted this post to be one of appreciation of the game changing epicentres who are ably enabled by the inner circlers and then supported by the outer circlers.

So to the 0uter rimmers, outcasts and gatecrashers
a)You probably won’t read this anyway.
b)You will think I am some idealistic overly-humanist no hoper and
c)You may try and gatecrash this blog with posts of ridicule, challenge and “oh get real” tripe. Your call but you’ll just underscore how futile your contributions really are.

I do what I do not to win you over but to marginalise you further.

I stand for what I stand for so you won’t gatecrash my party and turn the music off.

I believe in what I believe in and you will never out energise me towards that.

I want to change the game.

I would like as many people as possible to do the same.

I would love as many people as possible to get with those epicentres who are so generous we should appreciate it more.

I believe we will.

Gatecrashers may have plenty of living museums masquerading as work to crash into. And the outcasts and outer rimmers can enjoy being prophets in their very own wilderness.

  1. foxhumanresources says:

    Dear Sir, you always manage to invigorate my day and as it is Friday, doubly so. If you were a Jedi Knight (perhaps a modern day one?) I’d probably cite the Jedi Code…”There is no emotion, there is peace.There is no ignorance, there is knowledge. There is no chaos, there is harmony
    There is no death, there is the Force.”

  2. kategl says:

    Knowing you as I do, I appreciate your generous words and the sentiment behind them. Many of us are working together to change the world, to create a better future, SoMe has been, for me, an amazing link for collaboration, creativity, inspiration and support. Yours was one of the first voices I heard on Twitter and the trust and understanding that we have developed and nurtured is very special. You have played a vital role acting as a glue that connects, as well as, at times, challenging and inspiring to reach better outcomes. Don’t stop and thank you for the above piece – gratitude and appreciation and the attitudes that go with them can move mountains…

    • perrytimms says:

      Bloody marvellous Kate and thanks a lot for being the true you and commenting here. It’s nice for me to know that people react in this way to musings of mine and you’re so right – there are many of us that have built up an amazing amount of trust and we sincerely look out for each other. You’re an inspiration to many of us and so it’s great for me to have you pop along and comment like this in such a human, warm way. Thanks as ever, and up for the movement of some of those temporary mountains we’ve had constructed in our way.

  3. interimity says:

    Hi Perry
    Nice post. As someone who has set up an on (and off) line community … the categories. Am tempted to put some percentages by them as well.

    What’s interesting from my perspective is that with the community everyone is briefed on the expectations etc and nod away. Some of them are stars. Some of them are pretty good. And some of them only appear when they want something. But every so often I get a really good surprise when someone moves category…..(and they would say they were there all the time).

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